What is True Forgiveness?

Stillness and solitude of night for some strange reason instigate the thinking process; ideas become clear expression become lucid. As we become noiseless both from within and outside we could come across answers to questions that we have asked God at some point in our lives when things didn’t work the way we have wished for. Consequently for a brief moment, a door to consciousness opens up and out of the blue we stumble across the missing pieces of puzzle.

On occasions when I was confident either personally or professionally that I will definitely get a certain thing but then I had an entirely different outcome. Of course when things do not turn out the way we wanted them to it upsets us we ask questions and want to understand God’s objective. Today I received answers to some of my pending questions.

There were certain people who were fully aware of my professional capabilities, my sincerity and dedication towards my work and above all the excellent rapport that I had with them yet they opted for someone who was an absolute stranger to them and whose competence, integrity and compatibility level with them was unknown. I was frustrated with those dynamics. When I look back now I thanked Lord for not associating me with them simply because if someone who is mindful who knew all the facts inside out and still decided otherwise; then this decision gives rise to a very serious question, do these people possess the discernment to acknowledge any merits or capabilities in the first place. Hypothetically if for some reason I did get their work and perform my best or even make a hole in sky they would not be able to fully value the worth of my efforts. For instance, I don’t know anything about brands and if I buy a Gucci handbag then to me it is just a beautiful bag which is very expensive, that’s it -period. On the other hand, there is somebody whose brand aware or brand conscious then that person is in a far better position to realize and enjoy a Gucci.

So the bottom line is that instead of suffering the anguish for being ignored by injudicious we should pray to be amongst the astute; however, all this is futile if we are filled with anger or hatred for them. For us to move forward we need to Forgive whoever caused us any pain.

It is understandable to think that how can we forgive people who behaved heartlessly towards us but by forgiveness I don’t mean that you condone their behaviour or have a lunch with them. By Forgiving someone we actually free ourselves from the anger, the pain, the suffering that their behaviour have caused us; its not about the other person but its for the sake of our own peace.

In case you find resistance and difficulty in forgiving then simply hand over the matter to God and show your willingness to forgive, just pray that this person has caused me pain but I am willing to forgive him/her/them so please Help me, Lead me, Guide me.

With my personal experience I have found key indicator of true forgiveness and that is whenever we hear the name or even meet the person who caused us suffering or pain we can’t find a shred of negativity in us, no anger or hatred or any memory of their past behaviour. It’s quite similar to meet or hear about someone for the very first time in your life. And if this is how you feel after forgiveness then believe me you are ready to start afresh, the withered and infertile land is now cleaned, ploughed and ready to plant new seeds.

When we feel either rage or pain or hurt due to someone’s callousness then what is in fact hurting us is our own inability to forgive them. Our immune system is made only to feel good emotions to be in the state of love peace and joy.

Negativity comes in all shapes and sizes it ranges from fear, anxiety, depression, frustration, anger, hate, pain, suffering, hurt, boredom, guilt, jealousy or sorrow; basically negativity is anything that feels really bad inside. If we experience any of those emotions then we are going against our fundamental structure which would ultimately defunct our entire immune system leading to some incurable disease. DIS-EASE in body. This what happens in cancer, when a single cell in the body which is suppose to protect the immune system goes against it and builds up a separate empire resulting in the destruction of the organism where it is living.

Forgiveness is also important because if we are in pain or suffers in one area of our life we simply block the way of something good and miraculous to appear in another area of our life. And I am not saying this only to comfort my self or anyone else in bad times but this is the real stuff not some pseudo psycho comforting thinking. Just give it a thought!

In midst of slumber I had to wake up just to write the blog and now I seriously need to get some sleep.

Siesta time for me and an advance Good Morning to all…...

Sonya. (Day 39)