This is a story of a
woman who belongs to Pakistan.
Once upon time not long
ago there lived a woman whose life was peaceful and everything was perfectly under
her control until……
Until someone comes in her
life, hands over to her something which is very precious for them, and asks her
to become a part of the most important time in their life.
It is the wedding
invitation.
Oh no! there are other
invites also: one for mayoon, one for mehndi, baraat and valima. Since the
families are close so you are also heartily invited to attend dholkis
as well.
The life which was once calm
and composed suddenly begins to shake…and then just when she is about to
make some sense of it all…. There is another invite and another and another….
Then she begins the
greatest search for clothes, a wild hunting for the best and the most exquisite,
and if something appropriate is not available in her closet she would make panicked
calls to friends and family asking for help, some guidance as to what should be
done.
Thereafter begins a trail
of expenses on clothes, shoes, hair and makeup. In these moments of crisis the male family
members are the most scared, astonished and bankrupted species.
But this is how it is…...
A true story of all women.
We cannot help it even
the most careless of us are unable to escape the pressure. A pressure not given
to us by someone else but mainly by ourselves.
Even someone like me who
is mostly lost in her own world can suffer from extreme anxiety when it comes
to attending weddings because as soon as I receive the news that I have to
attend matrimonial function(s), the first thing that comes to my mind is, “what
am I going to where?”
Yesterday when I was
thinking about my craziness with weddings and also the chaos and anxiety many
women experience during wedding season, I came to a conclusion that we suffer from wedding anxieties because we take them too
personally.
You see when we are
invited to attend someone’s wedding functions it is because a family wants us
to be a part of their celebration, to share their joy, and to give our blessings
to the bride and groom. It is not about us, it’s about the ‘couple’.
There is no doubt that we
should dress up; however, not because we are competing with everyone out there rather
we dress up to show our respect for the scared and blessed occasion.
Once we really fully get this
in our core, it can transform our wedding preparations from being opportunities
of self-aggrandizement to wonderful spiritual moments.
Happy Weddings to All!
Lots of love,
Sonya Syed. (Day 510)
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