Sonya Syed

Making choices could be tough at times and when emotions and expectations of others, others that matter to you the most, are involved the process turns far more grueling then it was expected. Please excuse me today for I am in a rather perplexed frame of mind, Martha Beck a renowned life coach said to let go off your thinking and calculative mind while making decisions i.e. stop looking for all the pros and cons while making any decision, instead go with your instincts. If the decision is required from buying a soap to buying a house see how your body reacts to every option, see how the muscle gets tensed or relaxed, get deeply in your body and listen to what its trying to tell you. Yeh yeh all right so I got in touch with my instincts and all, now what? Gathering the spiritual data is not that much of a task but its application into our daily lives is really crucial. Even after knowing confidently what shall be the outcome or what is desired from any situation the realties on the p...

I had one of the most interesting weekends and the Sunday evening was really special when I had to exhibit profusely my negotiation-cum-pleading-cum-convincing-cum-advocacy skills to the optimum level. I was on a very important call with somebody who is equally important and that somebody had to make some very important decisions concerning my academics. At this point it is wise not to reveal the particulars and to talk about this matter later in detail when things are in definite shape, hopefully, InshaAllah. I do not even know how to be thankful appropriately to God for the opportunity that I had been blessed with, irrespective of the outcome of my little tête-à-tête, it is enough for me to explain my side and there was someone who was willing to listen. So thank you God once again. It has almost turned into an epidemic that increasingly teenage girls and in particular their moms are pressing their daughters desperately to have fair complexions. It is a regular for girls coming to ...

What a hustling and bustling day I had, even though it was a public holiday but daily necessities are unable to comprehend this concept so what needs to be done should be done. And then there is a twist in the story, a cancelled get together with family-friends was suddenly rescheduled early morning. It was a meet up that I had been longing for quite a while. The family me and Amma visited has been our friends for so many years now. Quite simple people with even simpler lifestyles, one immediately becomes comfortable in their presence. The lady of the house whom I lovingly call Hameeda Aunty had an accident with her left leg which was badly burnt by boiling water and at the same time her daughter had typhoid. However, now seeing both mother and daughter getting healthy and in their usual high spirits with the leg healing satisfactorily was gratifying. As a tradition prevalent in many of the Memon families, like our friends who also belong to this community, we all sat on floor for...

I read somewhere that Librans are all about balance and fairness; they are the worst decision makers and are highly creative. I don’t completely believe in stars or in their prophecies however to some extent I must agree that I am in approval of the inherent tendencies associated with astrological signs. I accept that balance is the key to my survival whether in relationships, work or generally I have to have balance. I am just unable to go to any extremes probably that is the reason that I’m not into adventures as one has to live on the edge, something which is not possible for me. My fairness or just nature is another trait which becomes unbearable for others and at times for me as well. With so much injustice going around I am amazed at my survival. Oh wait! I just had an epiphany I am lawyer representing justice and law and the symbol of law and my star sign is the Scales isn’t this spooky. I’ll take it as a sign that I am doing what I am destined to do from birth. I must sheepi...

I didn’t even realize its been 13 days since I last wrote I thought merely couple of days elapsed; At times I so much wanted to write but the tiredness of body didn’t allow me. Nevertheless, now I am in your esteemed presence and with love. What is the recipe which manufactures successful or accomplished individuals? Is it their sheer hard work, perseverance or plain simple luck? Everyone gives their best to win, to prove their mettle, to be recognized and accepted for their efforts; nonetheless very few make it to the top. From what I have seen through my personal observation is that neither the quantity nor quality of labour invested is primary but how you manage everything is the most crucial element. We daily come across people who are highly talented, works meticulously day in and day out but they remain underrated. Then there are very few who possess limited or no relevant talent yet they achieve the acme of their fields. When I was completing my law I almost gave my life to f...

Such a waste of time and energy when efforts are focused on useless aims, but who knew that the aims were useless it was only after a certain time was invested we realize their futility. It leads us back to square one or as said loth key budho ghar ko aiey (after a purposeless journey idiots return home). Since I’m trying my best to transform into a positive thinker I’ll look at the situation with a  glass half filled  perspective; so some good did come out and the tasks which were dormant once became not only active but were completed with a degree of perfection. At times regardless of how sincere and dedicated our efforts have been things are simply not meant to manifest. So what should we do then, should we keep on trying or call it quits? Or should we wait patiently with a belief that we did our best and have faith in the destiny. One thing which I am sure of is the Effect shall never be different from the Cause, it might be delayed however. So what is the conclusion of...

Condolences and prayers for all those who lost their lives and loved ones to the earthquake in China, killing more than 400 and injuring approximately 10,000 people. It is another sad incident after the aircraft crash of Poland’s President, his wife, army personnel and civilians. May God rest their souls in peace . Life has such unexpected packages in store for us; with a blink of eye it has the power to change the entire course of so many lives. We all must be grateful for what we have and pray that the blessings of God shall remain with us, always. In the quietness of afternoons when Indian cuckoo chirps somewhere it symbolizes the arrival of summer. Even in that humidity a sense of clam enthrals our being only if we stop for a moment, take a breadth and listen to that sound devoid of all mental noise or thinking or judgement, just being there totally in that moment. How beautiful it is if we could feel the breeze touching us, hear sounds in proximity, see all that is around us....